Care and the Four Quotients / 关怀教育与四商
Series: The Educational Philosophy of Care
From *Life-Care Education Based on Improved Mental Models*, Chapter 8, Section 7. The English text on this page is an AI translation revised for web reading.
Care and the Four Quotients
If the “four quotients” introduced earlier in the book are understood as four capacities, then care does not occupy exactly the same conceptual space. Care is both a capacity and an attitude toward life. As a capacity, it contains strong internal tensions. Those tensions may be moderated only when care is also lived as an orientation, not merely exercised as a skill.
Let us begin with care as a capacity. In that sense, it is intimately connected with all four quotients. Intelligence provides the cognitive condition for good care: if we cannot tell what the facts are, who most needs care, or how far care can be effective, then our caring intention may easily backfire. The Luo Yixiao case discussed earlier is a good example. She was certainly a proper object of concern, but national-scale pity directed overwhelmingly toward one case is itself difficult for any person to bear. Care requires not only feeling but judgment about object, proportion, and likely effect.
Emotional intelligence, in turn, is the carrier of care. It supplies the motive force, the psychological energy, and the felt reason for acting. Merely knowing who ought to be cared for and what that person needs does not yet guarantee caring action. This is one version of the problem Aristotle identifies in the practical syllogism: a person may possess the relevant conditions for action and still fail to act. Empathy supplies the will or meaning that allows care to become practice rather than remain an inert conclusion.
Moral intelligence concerns the social realization of care. People often connect care with moral qualities such as social responsibility. That is right, but social responsibility and care are not quite the same thing. Social responsibility is more specific; care is more general. To use a perhaps slightly playful analogy, care is like inner force in martial-arts fiction, while social responsibility is like the outward form of a technique. Inner force without technique does not make one a master, but technique without inner force also fails at decisive moments.
This difference matters because care cannot remain merely in the mind. It has to be realized through a concrete moral environment. One way to see this is through science fiction. Cixin Liu’s Three-Body novels imagine that interstellar civilizations cannot establish relations of empathy, and that even morally advanced civilizations may therefore mistrust and destroy one another in a dark forest. If empathy were something that did not need to be socially realized, this problem would not arise. But because empathy must take institutional, cultural, and moral form, different worlds may embody it differently. Frank Herbert’s Dune gives a vivid image of the same point: an act that counts as respect in one culture may appear offensive in another unless some mediating understanding is present. Care without social embodiment remains an unrealized mental possibility.
Finally, systems intelligence points toward the horizon within which these tensions can be held together. When we speak of a system, we imply that there are disharmonies within a larger whole that require coordination. The most difficult theoretical issue, in my view, lies here. Care itself contains irreducible tensions. My preference for second-person empathy already implies one of them. Second-person empathy is meant to avoid the defects of both first-person sympathy and third-person calculation, but no complete positive theory can fully reconcile the two. We know that emotion may be misled. We also know that pure effective altruist rationality is impossible to realize in its ideal form, and may even become counterproductive. Yet no final formula tells us exactly how to combine the strengths of both.
The same problem appears in other forms. Should empathy education stress embodiment or mentality? Embodied sensitivity matters, because many forms of relation begin at the level of perception and bodily response. Yet embodiment is limited by social and biological conditions. If you teach a child how to interact with a kitten, for example, you have to explain that a kitten may hug with its paws and kick with its hind legs in ways that seem rough, because that is part of its embodied expressive repertoire. One cannot simply abolish that fact. Mentalist approaches, by contrast, emphasize rational control and interpretation, but they too have limits. Reason has blind spots, and human beings never cease to be embodied creatures.
Similar tensions appear elsewhere: between specialist education and liberal education, between belief and will, and between intervention and restraint. Enhancement-oriented education tries to cultivate knowledge and skill within one framework. Liberal education asks for wider tolerance across frameworks. The two do not easily coincide. Likewise, a person may judge that something should be done and still fail to do it; or may accept the evidence intellectually while resisting it emotionally, producing some form of self-deception.
Systems thinking offers one possible response, but only if we understand it carefully. Earlier in the book, Zhang Yuanyuan describes what I would call a positive form of systems thinking, one that asks individuals or groups to step outside narrow perspectives and seek possibilities from a wider standpoint. In many global crises this way of thinking is indeed necessary. Yet its efficacy is still limited. Any system, once operationalized, becomes finite. Any perspective that claims to be complete eventually reveals its incompleteness.
So I want to add a further idea: a negative form of systems thinking, understood not as passivity but as restraint. Here the relevant attitude is close to what classical Chinese thought sometimes calls wuwei: not doing nothing, but refusing unnecessary and impulsive intervention. In many situations, doing less, looking longer, and acting only where action is necessary may be the wiser course. This kind of restraint sets a very high standard of self-regulation.
From the side of intelligence, that means monitoring not only what one thinks but also what one allows oneself to take in. In an age saturated by data and digital bombardment, every person needs some ability to examine the informational channels through which identity and judgment are formed. From the side of embodiment, it means recognizing how urban life and the loss of contact with nature weaken perceptual capacities that care depends upon. Practices that restore embodied alertness therefore matter.
This is where I want to end. At best, we can try to keep the conditions of care from becoming worse. We may be able to help learners remain above a humane baseline from which better relations remain possible. But education cannot guarantee excellence in any absolute sense. Too many factors remain uncertain. If that sounds somewhat anti-utopian, I am willing to accept the charge. I believe it is the more realistic and more responsible educational philosophy.
关怀教育与四商的关系及其内在张力
如果说在本书的第一篇中所提到的“四商“是四种能力,而对于它们的提高诉诸于对人类的认知发展的四种好的活动样态的追求。我们很难说它们和“关怀”完全处于同一个概念空间。”关怀“既是一种能力,又是一种生活态度。作为能力的关怀存在着强大的内在张力,而这种张力或许在当我们将关怀作为生活态度时才能在一定程度上降低其带来的摩擦和损失。
让我们先来看作为能力的关怀,它与四商的关系非常密切,我们甚至可以说如果实现了某种级别的四商,便具备了关怀的能力。然而这四种认知能力和关怀的关系却各不相同。我将其概括为如下四点:
1智商的正确打开方式是正确的关怀的信念前提;
2 情商是关怀的载体;
3 德商是关怀的社会实现;
4 系统商是关怀的境界诉求。
智商的一般意义在于对分析的数学式思维和以归纳综合检验为特征的科学式思维的综合运用。同时我们还需要一种能过跨越思维和理论范式的自由思辨的能力。正确的关怀一定是建立在真实的事实基础上的,如果我们连事实都无法分清,例如连谁更需要关怀或者应该关怀到什么程度都分不清的话,自然就无法给出正确的关怀,甚至适得其反。例如罗一笑的例子,虽然她的确是一个值得关怀的对象,但客观的说,一个举国悲悯的关怀对于任何人来说都是“不可承受之重”,不是吗?在很多时候,人们需要搞清楚关怀的对象,同时还需要关注关怀所能达到的效度,这是不容易的。
第一篇中所提到的情商指的就是同理心,当我们说它是关怀的载体的时候指的是:它为关怀行为提供了意志,或者动机,或者说心理能量的来源。仅仅意识到谁应该受到关怀以及他(她)需要什么样的关怀这并不足以推出人们对这个需要关怀的对象的关怀行为。这就是古希腊哲学家亚里士多德笔下的“实践三段论”的谬误,换句话说即便你具备了做某事情的条件而没有做这件事的意愿的话,你还是不会做这件事。同理心为关怀者提供了关怀意志的来源,换句话说同理心为关怀者提供了一个给出关怀的强大的“理由”或“意义”,以至于如果他不这么去做的话,就会失去生活中的某些“意义”。
人们往往会将关怀和道德品质挂起钩来。例如社会责任感就是一种关怀心的体现。但是社会责任感和纯粹的关怀心还是有一些细微的差别:社会责任感是具体的,而关怀心是抽象的。举个可能不太恰当的例子,关怀心更像是武侠小说里的“内功”,而社会责任感更像是“招式”,一个人空有内功不懂招式也算不上真正的武林高手,而一个人只懂招式缺乏内功,自然会在一些关键时刻“掉链子”。社会责任感是具体而有局限的,而关怀心似乎没有这种限制,只有当它落实到具体的责任行为上的时候,它才是有限的。我再举一个年轻人可能会很喜欢的例子,中国有一位著名的科幻文学作家,叫刘慈欣。刘慈欣在他获得了科幻领域最高奖“雨果奖”的名著《三体》系列中有过这样一个假设,即星际文明之间无法建立同理心关系,从而哪怕两个文明都是高度道德的或有同理心的,它们之间也会因为巨大的社会差异而导致相互不信任,进而在“黑暗丛林”中互相残杀。如果同理心是一种不需要“落地”的东西,就不会出现这种情况,但问题在于同理心必须通过某种社会性的存在实现出来。既然如此,两个文明就必然有不同的实现同理心的方式,从而也就会有不同的道德。例如在著名的科幻小说《沙丘》中,沙丘行星的弗瑞曼酋长斯第尔格达在会见莱托公爵一世的时候往地上吐唾沫,而这个行为在他们的文化中是一种示好,因为山丘行星极度缺水,把自身的水分释放意味着敞开胸怀,而莱托公爵一世来自一个海洋行星,他自然无法理解这种行为的道德含义。如果没有中间人的话,他们双方可能会因为对这个行为的不同理解产生冲突。我们需要注意,同理心或关怀心必须通过具体的道德环境才能实现,否则它就只能是停留在人的心智中的梦幻泡影。
最后让我们来谈一谈可能是本书在理论上最困难的一个话题,这与第五章中所提到的“系统商”有关。当我们提到“系统”的时候,其实暗喻着在这个整体内部有一些不协调的因素需要相互协调。之所以从系统的、整体的角度看问题有的时候很重要,恰恰是因为如果你只从局部的角度看问题的话,总是会产生各种各样的认知冲突。那么问题来了,在“关怀”这个话题内部,到底藏着什么样的张力或者不协调呢?其实我在第六章开始的时候就暗示了这一点,我们希望推崇的那种同理心是“第二人称的”,第二人称看上去是要和第一人称和第三人称的同理心理论区分开来,但是它并没有给出自己的正面定义。原因就在于一个完备的第二人称同理心的正面定义是无法给出来的。换句话说我们很难通过一个正面的理论去完美统合第一和第三人称的同理心的长处。我们知道偏感性的同情心可能会受到非理性的误导,也知道纯粹的效用利他主义无法实现,甚至有可能在很多时候适得其反。但是如何统合他们两者呢?这是很困难的。
第二人称同理心内部张力的另外一种展现形式是:我们在培养同理心的时候应该更加关注具身属性还是更加关注心智属性?前者强调自然感知能力对于认知和行动的天然助力。它的缺点在于感知在很多时候是受到具体的社会与生理条件约束的。例如我们在教授如何与动物(如小猫)相处的时候,我们必须知道这样一个事实,猫咪用来表示拒绝和玩闹的方式往往是粗暴的,当它想和你玩闹或者拒绝的时候,它会张开它的小爪子抱住你的手或者腿用后腿猛蹬。这是它的先天的生理特质所决定的情绪与感知表征方式也就是它的具身情感表达形式,这种限制是任何人都无法改变的,你只能被动的接收和适应。而在心智理论中就不存在这个问题,因为心智理论强调人类对自己的行为的理性控制。理性专属于思维,而思维在很大程度上不受身体的限制。但这种理论也有两个问题,第一是理性也有死角,第二是人类总是不可避免的要受到具身和感知的影响。
类似的张力不仅存在于同理心内部,它还散落在各处。例如它会散落在前面的“三商“的内部,还会散落在三商之间。例如,在智商这个环节,科学性思维要求的是一个稳定的逻辑起点,也就是理论范式。正如在经典物理学范式中思考问题和在广义相对论范式中思考问题的起点是不一样的,因为前者认为时空是绝对的,而后者认为时空是相对的。我们可以为了保持一种思辨性,即认可前者又认可后者。但是这样一来我们就无法在某一个范式下深耕下去得出更深入扎实的成果。
这一点会衍生出我们在从事教育工作的时候最棘手的一个问题,教育的增强属性与教育的通识属性的张力,就是俗称的技能教育和通识教育之间的张力。增强型的教育要求以某个范式为基础尽可能地培育建立在这个范式基础上的知识和技能,而通识教育又称为“自由教育”,要求能够培养学术跨专业跨范式的理论宽容思维模式。然而这两种模式似乎是相悖的。至少在表面上来看是这样的。
此外,我们还可以关注一个存在于“智商“和”情商“之间的张力,我们前面提到过,前者涉及到个体的信念状态,后者涉及到个体的意志状态。但是信念和意志在有些时候是不一致的,亚里士多德的时间三段论的谬误就是这么得出的。当你认为你做某件事的道德和能力条件都具备的时候,你不去这么做,这种行为就是我们常说的”意志薄弱“,还有另外一种情况,当你理智上相信某个证据,但是你情感上却不愿意接受,最终导致了自我欺骗。这两个问题是道德心理学领域里的两个比较棘手的问题。道德教育者自然也会面对这两个问题。
为了解决这些问题,系统性思维方式或许是一种解决思路。在第五章中,张媛媛女士论述了一种我谓之“积极的系统思维方式“的思路,它在一定程度上要求不同的利益个体或者群体跳脱出自身的狭隘视角,能从一个全局的视角来看待问题,从而探寻一种解决问题的可能性。在解决一些全球性的危机的时候,这种思路很可能是必要的。然而,无论从现实还是从理论上来看,我们都必须承认,第五章中所陈述的系统商的效力也是有限的。从理论上来说,它的有限性可能是因为它依然是某种能力,而非某种态度。既然是能力,就一定有某个落地的标准,但正如我们前面所论述的,只要是落地的道德就必然是有限的。原因很简单,任何人的评价标准都是来自局限性的局部视角,而任何自称是完备的视角几乎都被证明是不完备的。此外,我们也很难找到一个正面的系统理论能够解决前文中我所提到的那些张力。
在这里我希望强调一种作为态度的系统性思维方式。下面的问题是,既然是“态度”而不是“能力”我如何从行为的角度来观察你的系统商呢?作为对张女士的补充,我在此处提供一种我称之为”消极的系统性思维“的思路。这种思路有点像是老子所说的”无为“或“无为而治”,我们会把这种无为而治更多看成是某种态度或“境界”而非具体的行为指南。在很多时候,保持克制,多看少做是一个更好的选择。当然,少做不等于不做,而是把自己的积极行动能力聚焦在一些必须做出的行为抉择上,而且要保持稳健和迅速。这意味着对于个体对自身的认知自控达到一个很高的标准。
从”智商“的层面看,一个人不仅需要具备跨范式的自由思维能力,还应该注意局限性的范式是由哪些信息输入导致的,尤其需要关注哪些不受自身控制的,不经意输入的信息。在一个充满了电子轰炸的大数据时代,任何一个个体的输入信息的背后都可能伴随着信息的谋制,对自己的数字身份和数字接口的检查是每个个体必备的能力。
此外,具身性的退化所导致的城市病或者自然缺失症也是每一个教育者和受教育者所必须重视的课题,像”不随意注意“这样的注意类型在城市人口身上的缺失已经对人类的具身感知力造成了巨大的缺失。所以,使用无论是主观还是客观的方式唤醒自身的具身能力的行动都是我们需要提倡的。充分的信息获取和自然健壮的具身力量可以在一定的程度上对抗恶性的自欺和意志薄弱。
这里我们只是尽可能地阻止与我们关怀力相关地因素变得“更坏“,但我们并不知道什么一定是更”好“的。或许这正与某种反乌托邦式的教育理念式重合的,我们只能尽可能的保障我们的受教育者维持在某种”底线“之上,而无法通过教育培育某种绝对的”卓越“,毕竟”卓越“这件事背后的不确定性因素太多了。